Invention Essay: Competing in Sports

Competing in Sports

                Sports are a way to get away, to let go and to compete to the best of your ability and bring your best side forward. Sports are an American past time and a way to release yourself and let your stress and body be free. Everyone has different reasons for participating and I have always wondered why. Sports are defined as an activity involving physical exertion and skill in which an individual or team competes against another or others but who made this so competitive? Who turned physical exertion into a competition? Is it different for males than females? Is there a sport that makes individuals more competitive or is it an individual that is born competitive? These were all questions that I had been asking for years. As a sports enthusiast athletes often look to be born competitive and athletic but is there something inside of them that drives them to be more competitive than a normal person or are they just doing it as a job? These are the reasons that I choose to look deeper into the college students perspective on competitive sports and the nature of competition.

Being a lifelong athlete I have always been competitive. For me it started really young. I was only in kindergarten when I brought a flyer home to my mom and told her I wanted to wrestle. I began wrestling then and only grew more and more competitive. In third grade I got sent to the principal’s office for tackling a friend during recess football. I started learning the discipline then and realized that I needed to control my competitive side but still today it often kicks in when I should be more relaxed. I make everything I can into a competition. I often challenge myself to different time limits or projects and just that little mental competition drives me to produce a better product and often in a shorter amount of time. I began wondering if this was a similar case in those around me. I looked at different sports and realized some of the strengths and weaknesses with different sports. I did research that for the most part agreed with my theories.  My goal for this project was to concur my research and theories with the students here at WSU.

To accomplish our goals we needed to figure out the project that would work for all of us. My goals were more focused on the individual’s reason for competing and their previous background. The goals in the rest of the group varied slightly but all of our goals focused on the individual and their personal goals and reasons for being active or competitive and their athletic and competitive background for their reasoning. We decided the best way to do this was to go to the place with the most focused, athletic and/or competitive people. We started at the Student Recreation Center. We first went as a group and approached individuals to ask questions and in a sense interview each person. We got some very closed and “typical” answers; People were not opening up to us. We decided to instead go up to groups of people and we started getting much better answers and they started to vary more because they were open to sharing as a group of friends but for me it still didn’t feel deep enough. We then decided to also look at intramural teams and for me that was the best answers I received. The intramural teams didn’t having a problem talking to you and I accredit this to two things; 1) To be on an intramural team you have to be open enough to ask to play; 2) Intramural teams are always competitive unlike some of the people at the gym who were just there to “get in shape”. I really enjoyed my conversations at the intramural sports sessions. I was able to talk very closely with people who I wouldn’t have and because they saw that I was athletic there seemed to immediately be a bond we shared. I wish I would have used a tape recorded for our interviews so we could have had an audio clip with the sincere responses because it wasn’t the same on print in the PowerPoint but I feel as if we would’ve tried to video record them we wouldn’t have had nearly the success rate we did.

By completing our task without a video camera or pictures we were able to get much more honest open responses. At a school the size of WSU students don’t mind having their name shown in a PowerPoint but when people are sweaty and working out it is very difficult even to ask for a picture. Audio is a tool I look back and wish we would have used more. After asking for pictures later on in the project to use off of Facebook we got some quality sports pictures and enhanced the effectiveness of our presentation but in order To really get in touch with each person I would have liked to recorded their audio and got their quotes to play with a picture of them off of Facebook. This would have been a much more effective tool than the typed quotes were. The biggest problem with that plan would have been finding an audio recorder. Although this may have been difficult it is not impossible and I think it could’ve been done but, as it was a group project, things don’t always turn out the way an individual would like them to or do it by oneself.

The biggest writing challenge in this project was the interviewing aspect. I was not used to writing as fast as people talked. It was difficult to talk and write at the same time because I am so used to looking into people’s eyes and common courtesy when they talk and I felt like they were unappreciated when I wasn’t explicitly paying attention to them. That was the hardest part for me to get over but for me I believe I got the major concepts and some good specific quotes that were needed for the final presentation. I believe I got much better at focusing my note taking which will help in my academics as well. I had to focus on the important details during the interviews and could only write down a few statements. It became easier and easier as I went on to pick up on the information that was important to them and because it was a project that was for others, that’s what I want to focus on. The information they wanted others to know.

A big challenge during the project was the weather. We started in the REC which was nice because of the available surfaces to write on and the controlled climate but when we went out to the REC soccer and football games all the changed. When we went out it was very windy. One of the days it was beautiful out but the wind was howling and it was hard to get the paper to stay in place. This made our notes a bit sloppy and so the next time we went out we brought a chip clip to hold the notebook pages down which helped a lot with the wind. However, the wind was not as bad the second day. This day we went out and at about half time it began to rain and got our paper wet. Thankfully we were using pen and were still able to read it but it was still a pain. It was much easier when we went back inside to the intramural volleyball games and back to the REC for the last time. If we did this again I wouldn’t procrastinate so much so we could be pickier with our days and choose when we want to go out instead of relying on that night for five or ten of our samples.

Overall this was a very interesting and enjoyable project for me. As an individual we are all different and for me wrestling exemplifies this in a way that, to me, no other sport ever has. As an individual in wrestling you are alone. It is only you out on the mat going against this other guy who has the same goal in mind, to win. To accomplish this it takes training and determination and accountability. You must believe in yourself and be confident in the moves you preform and the only way to have this confidence is to practice. It has been said that wrestling is anywhere from 75-90% mental which I would definitely agree with. Just like you hear in the movie Act of Valor “If your mind aint right, you can’t accomplish the mission.” In wrestling this is more than true. You need to be focused and you must possess what are called the three D’s, Discipline, Dedication, and Determination. Those are the keys to wrestling and I believe could be called the three D’s to all competitive sports. This project proved this to be true for me. It showed me how much it has helped me in my life to be competitive and learn from my experiences. Sports has taught me focus and drive like nothing else in life can and this project showed the similarities with other sports as well. The conclusion was conclusive, the college students in which I surveyed all were out there for the same reason; we all have the drive to better ourselves. Whether it’s to relieve stress or to be confident in yourself by winning, it is always to better ourselves.

Power of Relationships

Tom Hanks once said, “Truth is, I’ll never know all there is to know about you just as you will never know all there is to know about me. Humans are by nature too complicated to be understood fully. So, we can choose either to approach our fellow human beings with suspicion or to approach them with an open mind, a dash of optimism and a great deal of candour.” Every day we walk around campus here at Washington State and we see hundreds and possibly even thousands of faces. To us most of these faces are just people in a crowd, people who to us mean nothing. We see them one day and wouldn’t know if they were gone the next but every single one of these faces has a story behind the mask; they all have a reason for being here and many of those reasons will never be heard. Could this change if we paid a little more attention to each and every person? There are nearly 20,000 students on campus here at WSU-Pullman so for me I think that would be a no; For me it is not important to reach out to all 20,000 students because when I look at my life it is much more important to me to be surrounded by people who know me, care about me, and love me. It is often said that the people with the most fame and fortune are often the least satisfied and this is because of the lack of solid and caring relationships in their lives. There are relationships we all have in our everyday lives and those relationships are the ones that matter the most. I believe in the power of friendship, family, and marital relationships because my life would not be anything without the relationships I have made along the way.

“A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you.” A famous author named Elbert Hubbard said this quote long ago. To me this shows that through time friendship is one of few things that have stayed the same. We see all these people coming and going but our true friends are the ones walking next to you day after day. True friends know everything about you but stay with you through thick and thin just like Hubbard said. Friendship is a very fragile type of relationship. Many times relationships require commitment but with friendship it is an option. Friends are always allowed to leave which can be our biggest problem with them. Often times we take friends with a grain of salt. We are never too eager to dive in because we are never sure whether they are worth the time it will take to build the friendship or not. We tend to have very closed minds when it comes to new people and for some people this can be a huge problem when leaving home for the first time and coming to a school like this with 20,000 students. It can be very overwhelming at first but in order to survive on a campus that large we need a support group, we need friends. Friends are the way that many people deal with their problems. Without college friends it is very hard to survive and deal with everything on your own. The stress of college is way more overwhelming than anyone would ever suspect and that really got to me first semester. I was struggling in classes and failing to meet the personal standards I had set for myself. I don’t expect myself to be perfect but I know how smart I am and I know my limits and the work was within my limits and was nothing I couldn’t do but yet I looked at my work and just couldn’t focus and couldn’t think and couldn’t study properly; I was frozen minded and it didn’t go unnoticed. I was very lucky to be on a floor of guys who cared about me and asked me if I needed help. I was struggling but they helped me get back on my feet and figure out what worked best for me and how to move forward without looking back. If it weren’t for these guys I don’t know if I would still be at Washington State today. They encourage me even today to get my work done and to focus on school first and everything else can fall in after that. This is the only way to survive in college and by their advice and actions I have learned this. Friendship is almost always positive and while it can be very hard to open up to and deal with it will be worth your time because in the end it will often save you time stressing about a project or a paper that they can help you with. Friends are always by your side even while walking through a sea of face and knowing nothing of them, they are your supports and will love you even knowing everything about you, goods and bads, ups and downs.

Jim Butcher, author of The Dresden Files, once said “When everything goes to hell, the people who stand by you without flinching — they are your family.” I couldn’t agree more with Jim here. My family has been with me through the worst of the worst parts of my life. They have seen me breakdown and they have seen me give up but they never leave or break me down. For me family is there to stay and I know that this is different for every individual because every family is different but a family is a family and no matter what happens blood will never change. I have witnessed this first hand in my mom’s family. My grandma on my mom’s side grew up as an orphan. Her mother passed away while she was in high school and it was very hard on her. She will openly admit to you that she was somewhat of a rebel and she never felt like she fit in in her foster families and that caused her trouble with her foster parents and the law several times. My grandma had my mom when she was very young and had my mom’s brother only two years later. When my mom was late into grade school her mom and dad got divorced. My mom although her dad left them is still blood to her and she doesn’t ever forget that. Although her dad was not the best person in the world he was her father and she would never forget him. She loved him because he was her blood and that will never change. Although she was so forgiving of her father, her brother was not. Her brother began drinking early into high school and hardly passed through high school. We had not heard from him for 7 and a half years until just this past December, just a few days before my mom’s birthday, she got a call from him and he asked about us kids and they talked for over an hour. When my mom told me he called I was in shock. I couldn’t stop thinking why did he call? What did he want? Why now? There was so much time lost and so much that couldn’t ever be made up. I wasn’t sure what to think and I laid in my bed that not and it wasn’t anything he needed or wanted but he was blood. He is family and although it had been a lot of time lost he is still family and no matter what happens he is still my uncle and although I feel the pain that he has put into my mother and grandmother, I know they would accept him back in a heartbeat. Family is forever. It is three small words and I know lots of people have bad family experiences abut no matter what happens you can’t change who your family is. Your mom and dad will never change and even if you despise them they created you and they are half of who you are. Letting go of a parent that wants to be part of your life is like letting go of half of who you are and that is not fair to anyone, especially your parent and yourself.
Forgiveness can be very hard but is necessary. Family is forever.

One of my favorite childhood characters, Winnie the Pooh, was quoted in the book by A.A. Milne saying, “If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day so I never have to live without you.” Marriage is a process that is so much more than a single day or a once a year anniversary; Marriage should be celebrated every day. Marriage, to me, should be between one man and one woman and it is a ceremony to celebrate the love that they share but at the same time it is so much more than that. Marriage is a commitment that should not be broken. It’s a commitment acknowledging that you are prepared to spend the rest of your life with a person. Through marriage you must not only cherish, respect and be thankful for all the amazing things about your partner but you must also accept the things that aren’t positives to you. For someone to be truly perfect the must not but always correct or always do or say the right things but you must have a mutual agreement that you will accept each other’s flaws because in the end you know how much the other person truly means to you and when this is true the positives will always outweigh the negatives of the relationship. A marriage is not easy but nor is any other relationship in life as we have seen so far. A marriage binds two people together who were either put there but fate or fortune. Marriage is supposed to be a happy ceremony celebrating two lives joining together for the rest of their lives but this isn’t always the case. I have a friend who this did not happen to. She was just 19 when she found out she was pregnant and her parents were not happy with it. She was in love with her boyfriend who was also the baby’s daddy and she was ready to move forward. Her dad would not let them move in together however unless they were married. They went to the courthouse and got a marriage license and were married in the court. Now this is not ideal for anyone but this was the best option for her in this situation and they are still married with their baby boy and everything is going good but you have to think about what if it didn’t. Marriage is such an incredible journey that to waste it would be tragic. Marriage puts the other person first and therefore wants the other person to live for one more day than them so they down have to live without each other.

Rachel Kleypas in The Blue-Eyed Devil wrote, “I no longer believed in the idea of soul mates, or love at first sight. But I was beginning to believe that a very few times in your life, if you were lucky, you might meet someone who was exactly right for you. Not because he was perfect, or because you were, but because you’re combined flaws were arranged in a way that allowed two separate beings to hinge together.” I believe that this applies to all types of relationships, though it is geared towards marriages, I think you love your family and friends in the same way. Love is at the core of all the relationships in our lives. It is different for everybody and different in every situation but with respect, honesty and courage we can love anyone either as family, friend or more. The power of relationships is overwhelming and can last forever with some work and a little love. Anything is possible with the power of relationships and just like Tom Hanks said, although you don’t know everything about me doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have an open mind about me.

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Oral Presentation

Relationships are a huge part of all of our lives. Whether we see it or not relationships form who we have been, who we are, and who we will be for the rest of our lives. Relationships can be all sorts of occurrences from friendly daily hellos to intimate sexual relations. Relationships are hard; they are fragile, unexplained and not very well understood. For being such an impactful part of our lives I think we as a society need to take a closer look at relationships and especially the relationships in our lives.

                First, relationships are not something to toy with. Relationships always make a difference on the lives of others and to be playing with someone else’s emotions is worse than playing with fire. We have all heard the saying treat others the way you would like to be treated but if someone is truly important to you, you should treat them with more respect and care than you expect to get back. In a true solid relationship respect must be given more than it should be expected. Respect should be at the core of relationships. It would be very difficult to keep a long-term relationship without it building on trust respect and honesty.

                To have respect we need to build trust. As humans it is very difficult for us to trust everyone around us. We need to build trust and stay loyal in order to keep respect. Trust is built over time and it comes on a person-to-person basis and everyone is different. There are many hard lessons in life; lessons we don’t even think about but use each and every day. This starts in your childhood and it never stops until the day we die. We are always learning, always changing, always trying to better who we are but is this always the best for us?

                Who we are is influenced so much based on the people around us and we usually find this to be a good thing. This is one of the reasons we protect our families and care so much for the ones we care about but unfortunately this can also be the reason for young kids to join gangs or try drugs or anything like this. Our friends can influence us to try new things and take risks in order to be cool or to fit in. I have had trouble with this throughout my life especially after I moved. I was very vulnerable and some “friends” got the best of that, convincing me to make decisions that I am not proud of. The trust we have in our friends can influence our whole lives. Choices like these can influence the rest of our lives from the time we are just adolescents.

                In conclusion, relationships can affect all the choices we make each and every day. They can create a life or hurt a future. Relationships affect every aspect of our lives and can create happiness in everyone. We need to understand each other in order to better ourselves and others. We need to build each other up and create a positive influence on others. 

Primary Research

During the primary research phase of my ted talk I want to hold some interviews with some of the people close to me because then I can be confident to get real and honest answers. My ted talk is a very deep and thoughtful issue that may be hard to talk to strangers about. I will look first to the people closest to me and find out there opinions about what matters most to them. After I compile a good list I will look it over and create an anonymous survey that I can send out to a few groups of people. Hopefully a multiple choice survey that will not take very long. This will give me a lot of input from all different types of people and will help diversify my project which for a large scale project like this will also make it much more credible.

Consumer essay peer review

The peer review discussion really helped me to realize what I could work on about my essay. The biggest consensus I got from the group was that I need to make my paper more personal. I also need to change maybe who I am as consumer because the points I use dont support the signs of a greedy consumer but rather an aware consumer. My examples would be more relevant to this rather than greed.