Rational with a side of Emotion

After reading Daniel Pink’s chapter on empathy, I explored Simon Baron-Cohen’s research on empathizing versus systemizing. I was unfamiliar with his research and found the concept that gender plays a major role in empathy intriguing. I learned that empathizing includes being able to recognize another person’s feelings and personally feel them. A good empathizer is able to read whether or not someone is lying, faking a smile or internally perplexed. Then he/she attaches themselves to the other’s feelings. On the other hand, I learned that systemizing people are detached, absorbed in details and structured by rules. After understanding what these terms meant, I was not shocked to find out that Simon Baron-Cohen’s research concluded that women are naturally better empathizers and men are better at systemizing. I decided to take the Simon Baron-Cohen’s empathizing/systemizing test to see what my scores would.

I scored a 60 on the empathy test. The questions I was asked centered around my ability to read other people’s feelings without them directly stating or showing them. I believe my score is fairly accurate to my personality. I have a more nurturing attitude for the people I am close to in my life. I attribute this to my natural instincts as a woman to protect my family. For the most part, I am very good at intuitively knowing the people I am close with feelings. However, I have trouble empathizing with people I do not know well. This explains why I received a middle range score on my empathy test.

While I am a relatively good empathizer, my strong suite is in systemizing. I love lists, rubrics, organizing, excel spreadsheets, charts, detailed plans, and understanding how things happen and why they work. Essentially, I am a very Left-brained thinker. I dwell on the analytical and become freaked out if rules are not followed. I believe this is why I received an 81 on my systemizing test. I grew up analyzing details with my dad and constantly asking why things work. I would somewhat detached myself from objects and/or scenarios in order to dissect them and rationalize conclusions. Unfortunately, this is not a very good tactic in sympathizing with other people’s feelings.

I believe my ability to adequately empathize with others balances my systemizing brain. While I tend to fixate on details and rationalizations, I still am able to recognize other’s emotions and appropriately react. The Myers-Brigg survey I discussed in my last blog post said that I am a 1% thinker. This simply means that I am slightly more rational than emotional with my decision making. My results from the Simon Baron-Cohen’s test nicely complements these results. However, I do go against the gender norms predicted by Simon Baron-Cohen. Generally females have a higher score on empathizing than systemizing. I attribute my inverted scores to the fact that I grew up in a very rational family. I learned to analyze situations instead of just going by my emotions. All in all, doing these tests has shown me that I am a pretty balanced individual when it comes to thinking.

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ENTJ

In class today, we began discussing the psychology behind decision making. In high school I studied the work of Katharine Briggs and Isabel Myers. They researched people’s personalities and how they effect a person’s one-on-one interactions as well as how they work in a group.  Personally, I learned a lot about my own personality and that I should be more understanding when working with groups because everyone thinks differently. I would like to encourage everyone to take the Myers-Brigg Test and research their personality type. Following the link is my reaction to my personality type.

http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/JTypes2.asp

After taking the Myers-Brigg survey, I was confused and disturbed. According to my results I am a 56% extrovert, 25% intuitive, 1% thinker and 78% judger. The last two numbers shocked me the most. How could I be a 1% thinker? I think through everything. I had no idea how I got a 78% in judging. I always try my best to be levelheaded and not jump to conclusions about anything. Needless to say, I hated my results even though I had no real understanding of what they meant.

I was relieved as we I researched what the different words and percentages mean. The letters ENTJ started to become tangible to me as I saw how they represented my personality fairly accurately. I learned that I make decisions with my emotions more often than I think- even if I do rationalize them. This is the reason for my 1% thinker. I feel for other people and want to give them the benefit of the doubt. At the same time, I am a very rational, rule following person. I become very afflicted when put in a situation where I have to decide another’s fate because they did not follow procedure. I also learned that it is not a bad thing to be a judger.  To have a high score in judging means that I follow deadlines, like structure, I am goal orientated and I have to-do lists everywhere.

I realized that this survey did quite accurately depict my personality. I am all of these things and from time to time I do switch it up. I also realize the importance in understanding my personality type as well as the people I am working with. I like to brainstorm out loud and at a quick pace while many other people brainstorm internally and like to think about it longer. Neither way is better than the other and in order to work or lead a team I have to recognize the differences between people. Lastly, I have noticed that my results reflect what I love to do and what I want to do as a part of the career I chose. I enjoy working on a problem, figuring out the unknown and then presenting my findings to whomever I can get to listen. While I am not sure exactly what career I want, I know that I need to find something that will work well with my ENTJ personality.

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November 25, 2082

As an almost 19 year old, I like to think I have a pretty good grasp on who I am as a person. However, the rational side of me knows that we are constantly forming new opinions, evolving and growing in our identity. At the beginning of my junior year of high school I wrote a paper on where I stand as a person. Now, reading that essay I can see how much I have grown in only a couple short years. For this reason, I thought it would be interesting to picture myself as a ninety year old and reflect on how I think I will feel about my life and my accomplishments for my meaning exercise.

November 25, 2082:

Today is my 90th birthday and what a glorious ninety years it had been. As I look back on the years that have flown by, I wish I could say that there were no regrets. However, there are always those opportunities that we allow to pass us by and people we should have hung on to a little tighter. I will never forget those summers in grade school I spent with the boy down the street. I wish had written him when he went off to the war and visited his mom more after his funeral. That family was so good to me. I regret not following my real ambitions after college. That consulting job was Deloitte was impressive but emotionally unhealthy.  I wish I had forgiven my sister for the things she said. The three years we did not speak were some of the hardest of my life. But I suppose there is not much I should regret because without the mistakes I made I would not be the person I am today.

I am extremely grateful to the family that never left my side and the best friends that walked into my life right when I needed them. I could not have imagined finding a more perfect man to spend my life with. John stood by me, supported me and encouraged me all through the years. I never would have been able to start my own not for profit without him. The 72 years we have spent together have flown by and I could not have asked for anything more.

Parker, Cade and Blake: my pride, my joy and my everything. Raising those three kids and watching them flourish in each of their own unique ways is the highlight of my life. They all grew up to be smart, athletic, independent and genuinely sweet adults. I am not quiet sure how I managed to be so lucky to have had the three best kids in the world! And I haven’t even started talking about my grandkids! Thanksgivings with all 23 of my grandchildren gallivanting about puts a gigantic smile on my face. They are all beautiful and perfect in their own way.

The last 90 years has bestowed so many blessings upon me. God truly has a plan for everyone. I know that without His grace and the support of those around me I would be in a very different position than I am today. Life is one hell of a journey full of ups and downs and surprises at every corner. I am glad I learned to embrace the best of times and preserver through the dark times. My 90 years of life have proven to tell my story and depict the meaning I find in life.

Writing this sort of autobiography was weird to put it simply. Rereading it now, I see how many subconscious ambitions and regrets I worked into it. I imagine this is because I have a feeling that I am going to make certain mistakes and I hope I will reach certain goals. Daniel Pink concludes the description of this chapter with a quote from Viktor Frankl that’s says “Live as if you were living for the second time and has acted as wrongly the first time as you are about to act now.” Through reflecting on what I wrote from a 90-year-old me perspective, I know I will probably find meaning through family and my faith in God. Beyond that, I know I will mess up and regret some things but I have now pointed out areas that may be problematic so I can try to avoid them. Hopefully as I move on in my life, I will strive to keep meaning in everything I do.

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We are What We’ve Been Through

Growing up, my momma always told me “we are what we’ve been through.” Back in the glory days when the biggest decision I had to make was whether or not I wanted to trade my animal crackers for goldfish, I let this expression roll off my back. It was not until recently that I realized the gigantic truth behind the saying. All of the goals I have accomplished, mistakes I have made, times I have laughed and times I have cried have shaped the person I am today. I am stronger because of the times I have faced adversity and I am humble from the many blessings I have received. In essence, my past, my present and my future together create one thing: my story.

In Daniel Pink’s chapter on Story in his book, A Whole New Mind, he demonstrates how a story is key to grabbing the attention of your audience.  He explains that it is easier for humans to recall stories rather than facts because we link emotion to stories and relate them to our own life. Many businesses are now focusing on telling the story of their products rather than throwing facts at customers. Doctors are learning patient’s histories and not just their statistics to be able to empathize with the patients. Pink links all of this together in explaining that humans naturally yearn for stories. We want to tell stories and to be told stories. We relate the stories of others to our past.

I found this concept particularly intriguing because I hope to one day run my own business based on an inspiring story. I want people to buy my product for not only its value but also for the emotion behind it. Hopefully, my business will have a meaningful slogan like TOMS “One for One.” The story starts with the name and draws in the consumer, even if they do not realize it.

For this reason, I chose to create a story from a song title. To me, music evokes a great deal of emotion and I thought using a song title as my opening line would be interesting. So, I opened up Firefox on my computer and went to a music website called Pandora. The first song that played was “Oklahoma” by Bob Schneider. The following is the story that I created from this song title.

 

Oklahoma. The sun’s shine radiating off of the yellow walls of my childhood room woke me up on those wonderful summer days. I thrived off of playing in the off-limits creek with my best friend Michelle, jumping from rock to rock as the water ran beneath us.  Now, my room is still yellow but a screaming alarm wakes me in on wonderful summer days. I thrive off of coffee on my drive to work and taking my full 45 minutes for lunch. I long to once again have those long summer days and those sweet Oklahoma nights.

 

While my story is no work of brilliance, I believe it tells the story of so many adults who long to be children once more. I cannot think of anyone who would rather sit at a desk writing tax returns when they could be playing in the sun, soaking up the radiation. Also, writing this story allowed me to dwell upon my childhood. I incorporated my emotions as a child into the story in attempt to make it more relatable. This exercise allowed me to use my past to create a story that evokes pathos from the audience. I know in the future I can use this storytelling technique to create a company and a product.

 

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Updating.

If there has been anything I have noticed about my college life, it is how incredibly busy I have become. I know that this fast pace, high pressure lifestyle is only going to increase as I work my way towards my professional life and once I have started my career. For this reason, I knew exactly what I needed to devote my “twenty percent” time to: time-management.

I have always been a very structured and organized person, however, my hand written sticky notes were no longer proving sufficient in forecasting and planning for events and deadlines. At the beginning of the semester, I switched to using the Stickies App on my Mac Book Pro as a way to plan out my week. As you can see by the picture, I list the things I need to accomplish each day. As I complete tasks, I mark them off my list. This has been very helpful in keeping me organized and on top of my short-term game. Where I have been struggling is keeping track of my long-term due dates because I tend to not notice them until they are immediately upon me.

In order to fix this problem, I devoted my time to teaching myself how to use Google Calendar. I just recently joined the Google fan club by creating my own Google+ and Gmail account and many of my friends suggested I also use Google Calendar to keep track of everything going on in my life. It took me about two hours to completely set up my calendar through the rest of 2011. Here are my top 4 favorite things I learned about Google Calendar:

1. You can set up multiple calendars.

When you create your Google Calendar, you can make one master calendar or you can choose to create multiple calendars.  I choose to create multiple calendars for the different groups I am involved in. My calendars are:  personal, class, major due dates, Phi Mu and Freshmen Council. You can choose to have all of the calendars showing or you can hide certain ones.  This makes it easy for me to navigate between the different activities I am in.

2. They color coordinate your different calendars.

I love to color coordinate and having each of my calendar’s activities be a certain color makes it super easy to glance at my calendar and see what I need to be doing or paying attention to. For instance, all of my events in my “Due Dates” calendar are bright red. This draws my attention to them so that I adequately plan for them.

3. You can set it to send you notifications about tasks.

Reminders are always nice. With Google Calendar, you can change the settings so that you get an email or text reminding you about an event. This means that I can have an email sent to me two weeks before my EAS test to remind me to start studying and preparing.  This is going to be especially helpful in making sure I am keeping track of  when I need to be doing what.

4. It links dates with your Gmail.

When you get an email sent to your Gmail account and it had a date of an event in it, it provides you with the opportunity to add the event to your calendar. This is such a simple way to never forget the date of an event because it is lost in some email and never made it to your calendar. I am constantly sent emails with dates in them, especially for my sorority, and this link makes it very easy for me to keep track of all the events.

Google Calendar has proven to be a great tool in allowing me to better manage my time. It will be very helpful as I prepare for my professional life where keeping track of dates and deadlines will be even more critical. I am happy I had to opportunity to use a part of my time to learn this program so that in the long run I will not have to spend as much time trying to figure out what I am supposed to be doing.

 

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Inspiration Inspires

May of 2015, hopefully, I will be graduating from the Georgia Institute of Technology with a degree in Business Administration. What I will do, how many job offers I will have or what crazy destination I may or may not be traveling to are all things I cannot predict or plan for. But until then, I can prepare and learn from the “Great Bambinos” of my profession. I chose to research Blake Mycoskie, Steve Jobs and Nancy G. Brinker because of their enthusiasm for their businesses and passion for why they do it.

Blake Mycoskie is the founder and “Chief Shoes Giver” of TOMS. TOMS is a business that revolves around helping those less fortunate. Mycoskie set up his company to revolve around one principle: One for One. Every time a pair of shoes is bought, a pair of shoes is given to a child in need. Mycoskie started TOMS after a trip to Argentina because he saw how many children are sick and could not attend school because they do no own shoes. Since it’s founding, TOMS has grown expontinally.   In 2006, 10,000 pairs of shoes were disturbed to the children Mycoskie first met in Argentina. Now, TOMS has distributed over a million shoes in 20 different countries and Mycoskie is expanding the company to include health, education, hygiene, and community development programs.  Mycoskie found an area for improvement, was inspired and used his entrepreneur spirit to start a company he is passionate about.

Steve Jobs is the most widely known for being the co-founder, chairman, and chief executive officer of Apple Inc. However, Steve Jobs also headed the team that developed the Mac, was on the front cover of Time Magazine by the age of 27, and was the co-founder and chief execuative for Pixar Animations Studio. He had a passion for innovation and new technology. He also had a “never give up” attitude I find most refreshing. He was actually fired from Apple in 1985. Once they brought him back, Apple had an explosion of success with their products. During his break for Apple, he bought and renovated Pixar. Jobs could see potential in anything. He found the flaws in designs and problem solved to make the design better, faster, stronger. Jobs found an area for improvement, was inspired and used his entrepreneur spirit to start a company he is passionate about.

Nancy G. Brinker is the founder of Susan G. Komen for the Cure. Susan G. Komen for the Cure is a nonprofit organization that raises money and awareness for Breast Cancer. It is currently the world’s largest network of cancer patients and survivors and provides the most fiscal support for reaching a cure to Breast Cancer. Brinker started Susan G. Komen for the Cure in 1982 in honor of her sister, Susan G. Komen. Brinker was by her sister’s side for the three years as she battled breast cancer. She promised her sister right before she died that she would do everything in her power to find a cure for breast cancer so that no one would have to suffer the way she did. Brinker is not a scientist and knew she could not find the cure herself. She knew she had the passion to raise money to aid the scientists in finding a cure. Brinker found an area for improvement, was inspired and used her entrepreneur spirit to start a company she is passionate about.

Mycoskie, Jobs and Brinker all rooted their careers in something they are passionate about. I believe that these three would meet all of the criteria Simon Sinek describes for great leaders in in TED talk “How Great Leaders Inspire Action”. While I may not know exactly what concentration I want for my degree or what I am going to be doing after college, I do know I want to find inspiration. I want to find a problem, innovate and be a part of something that can help make the world a better place. Whether that includes helping the less fortunate, starting a revolution in technology or raising awareness for something I am passionate about, I have great examples to follow. Mycoskie, Jobs and Brinker’s success in following their dreams is inspirational.  I know I want to find an area for improvement, be inspired and use my entrepreneur spirit to start a company I am passionate about just like they did.

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“I’d dress her in White and Gold, And put her on the campus, to cheer the brave and bold.”

By simply sitting in the Georgia Tech Library right now, I have already begun fulfilling my dreams and aspirations for my life. I grew up in white and gold, cheering on my favorite team from the alumni section at football games, my engineer parents flanking my sides. From a very young age I knew all of the cheers and fight songs, but most importantly I knew that Georgia Tech could offer me an international education and an invaluable brand. I kept focused in middle school and high school, diligently working to market myself in the most appealing way possible for Georgia Tech. I look at my acceptance letter as the beginning to my professional journey. With a Georgia Tech education and diploma, I will have a strong foundation onto which I can build a career.

The flaw I have encountered in my plans for my life is that I am not entirely sure what I want to do as a career. My passion in life is service work. I believe it would be awesome to work for or start my own service organization. However, I recognize that I could continue to do service work and also have a professional career. For this reason, I have set up a series of goals to complete before graduation to help me in my search for the right career.

First, I want to take a broad range of classes. One of the many special things about the College of Business Administration at Georgia Tech is the way in which it is set up. I have to take the introduction courses to all of the various concentrations before I can define which concentration I would like to go into. Learning about each of the different concentrations and what people in those fields do will really help me be able to choose what fits my personality and talents the best. Also, I want to study abroad for a semester to be able to experience a different culture. This will allow me to see if I want to work internationally or more domestically. Both taking the introduction classes and studying abroad will allow me to focus in on the positive and negatives of various fields.

Second, I want to partake in at least three internships. Internships will allow me the ability to work in the field and really see what it is like. I want to work with different companies with different concentrations because I need to see the business world from various angles to be able to find the right career fit for me. Also, the work experience that I will gain will make it easier for me to get a job upon graduation. Internships will probably have a very large impact on my decision for what career path I choose because I will have had tangible experience in the field to know if it is right for me.

Thirdly, I want to participate in the Technology and Management Program. The Technology and Management program was one of the major deciding factors for me to come to Georgia Tech.  While a new program, it is one of the most competitive and prestigious programs on Tech’s campus. Every January a group of students (half management majors and half engineering majors) are selected from a series of interviews to participate in this program. Just a few of the program’s benefits are a minor in Technology and Management, networking events with the program’s 10 corporate sponsors, specialized classes designed just for the program and many internship opportunities. I am working towards applying for this program in January of my sophomore year. I believe, assuming I am afforded this opportunity, that the program will provide me with plenty of opportunities to pursue the career of my choice and/or guidance in searching for the right career.

I have set these goals for while I am at Georgia Tech not only to help me in choosing a career path but also to make me the most competitive I could possibly be when interviewing for a job. My goals post-gradation are simple: to be happy and successful in the career I choose. My career could be in investment, marketing, operations, supply chain management or any number of the opportunities found in the business world. The comprehensive classes offered in the College of Management, internships, and the Technology and Management program will help me focus on which sector of business I will best succeed in. I know, no matter what career path I do end up choosing, that I made the right choice in preparing for my professional life at the Georgia Institute of Technology.

 

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North Avenue Trade Food

Food. It is essential for our survival but is it more than just that? Is food a center place for laughter, fun, conversation and maybe even studying? According to the students of Georgia Tech, food is all of these things and more. Food not only nourishes us, it fuels us, shows off our heritages and serves as a testimony to the diversity of the Tech population.

On Friday, my group and I sat down at one of the tables at the North Avenue Dinning hall to eat and collaborate on our invention mob. We are creating a documentary to capture the thoughts and feelings of those who flood through the doors of the newest dinning hall on campus. Friday, we complied all of the footage we have captured over the past couple of weeks. The footage covers the dinning hall at all hours of the day so that we can show a comprehensive overview of the life at the dinning hall. In looking through everyone’s footage, I encountered 2 potential problems as the chief editor of the documentary.

1. I use a Mac Book Pro. While this is normally a standard for anyone in the production business, the flip camera’s we checked out from the library for the project collect the footage as an AVI clip and AVI is a Microsoft format. This means that we have to convert all of our clips from AVI to MOV so that I can edit with them in iMovie. Luckily, both Christine and I encountered a problem similar to this in high school. We were able to find a site to make converting the files a lot easier.

2. We all have very different shooting styles. Generally in the productions I have worked on, one to two people do all of the shooting to keep style consistency with the different clips. At the very beginning of this project we talked about this and debated on who would be the one to shot. I thought one person should do the shooting so that it would match. However, with the craziness of all of our schedules that is simply not possible so we decided to collect footage independently. Upon reviewing the footage, I can see the different nuances in the way each of us frame shots and overall set up shots. I think this is going to be an advantage for us in the long run. Our shots and individuality in the production of the documentary parallel the diversity found at the North Ave Dinning Hall and all around Tech’s campus.

These potential problems turned out to be nothing more than minor kinks that required a little bit of brainstorming. Our group has worked tirelessly to capture North Ave from every angle. I am very proud of what we have done thus far and even more excited to showcase our final product. The students and staff we have interviewed parallel our excitement in always asking, “When is it going to be finished? I want to see it!” If you have any suggestion or want to be apart of our documentary, feel free to comment and let me or any of my group members know. We are here to show off what Georgia Tech has to offer!

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Gamer Noob.

In 2005 when Daniel Pink wrote A Whole New Mind, he cited that Americans purchase annually more than 220 million video games. In 2011, this number is exponentially higher. Video game systems are now hooked to the Internet, have live video chat and link people all over the world. The gamer community is tight-knit and growing. However, on Tuesday, September 13, I broke into the virtual world to try my hand at gaming.

Daniel Pink communicated gaming as a way in which to use whole brain thinking to interact, learn and escape. As a non-gamer, this intrigued me. I have always watched others play video games but always shy away at a chance to mingle with the controller. I am guilty of the “gaming is a waste of time and melts your brain” mentality that Pink attributes to many older generations. However, the fact that 3 hours of playing video games a week could help a surgeon preform better in surgery really caught my eye. I grew up playing soccer and have no hand eye coordination what so ever. I wondered if playing video games could help me link the two and enhance my brain’s capability to work as one.

Fortunately, I brought my brother’s old PS2 to college to use as a DVD player and he left one of this games inside it. The name of this particular video game is Jak and Daxter. In the game, you act as Jak collecting Precursor Orbs and moving up levels in the game. Jak has superhuman skills that develop throughout the game. On Tuesday I completed the training level and the fist level, which included completing my first set of tasks around the city saving it from the dark eco. Playing the game for me was very hard but fun. I had a lot of trouble learning the buttons and not looking down at my hands. After a while, I began to catch on and had fun with the strategy of the game and trying to help save the city.

Playing video games was a very positive experience for me for a couple different reasons. First, I really understood why Pink said that video game breaks increase productivity in the workspace. When I played Jak and Daxter, I was taking a break for my mound of homework. The game was fun, distracted me and caused my brain to keep active and not go into vegetation mode. Second, it was interesting to see how inept I really am when it comes to hand eye coordination tasks. I think that learning the buttons through playing and focusing on watching the screen could potentially really help me develop. Playing video games has a lot more to it then I ever considered and I am happy that Daniel Pink opened my eyes to the benefits behind the controller.

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Mental Paralysis

After reading Daniel Pink’s chapter on Symphonies, I felt inspired to attempt the self-portrait drawing. I have always envied those who can pick up a pencil and create something beautiful and eloquent. Flowers and stick figures are the range of my drawing abilities. I researched the Betty Edward’s Drawing on the Right a Side of the Brain and I came across her website: http://www.drawright.com/. It is a very intriguing website and has literature as well as an exercise to demonstrate the left from right brain. I excitidly decided to do this exercise.

First, you print out a plain picture of person’s profile. Then you trace over those lines and name the features as you go. I started at the forehead and rolled my pencil along until I got to the neck. Next, you draw the profile opposite of the printed profile so that together they look like a base. I said the features names as I was drawing them. It was very hard. My brain felt scrambled as I was trying to name the features and draw them with my untrained hand at the same time.

At the end of this exercise, I read Betty Edwards explanation of the exercise. I learned that my jumbled thoughts werenormal and that it was my left and right brain competing against each other. My left brain was trying to draw what I was seeing while my right brain was focusing on what the features I was saying are supposed to look like. In order to compete the exercise I had to use only my visual, spatial section of my brain. The confusion and fustration  felt during this exercise was largely due to my brain refocusing to get itself to use that section of my brain. This exercise was very helpful. It was awesome to be able to physically feel they battle between my left and right brain.

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