In Daniel Pink’s chapter “Empathy,” he describes empathy as
the ability to imagine yourself in someone’s position and know what they are
feeling. He starts off the chapter by describing a scene and then saying that a
sign of empathy is yawning, as contagious yawning is a primitive empathetic
mechanism. Now it may be the fact that I barely got 3 hours of sleep last
night, or maybe I’m just a really empathetic guy; but either way I yawned quite
a lot during that passage.
At the end of the chapter I decided to do the exercise entitled “Test Yourself.” The
individual exercises were somewhat short, so I picked a couple of them. First I
took the empathy test, which measured empathy based on a series of questions. A
lot of these questions had to do with the process of things, and how we thought
about different things. The score was out of 80, with the average male score
being a 30 and the average female score being a 24. As the scores get higher,
it indicates less empathy. I scored a 33 on the test, which means that I am
slightly less empathetic than the average male.
This result was actually surprising, as I consider myself an empathetic person in
most areas. But as I thought more deeply about the results I came to the
conclusion that I am very empathetic person on some issues and very not
empathetic on other issues.
For the second activity I took a second test where you are shown videos of people
smiling, and you have to determine whether their smile is genuine or not. This exercise
allows you to read facial expressions and use different clues about muscles in
the face to determine whether the smile is real. I got 16 out of the 20 faces
correct, which shows that I am fairly good at recognizing facial features and
reading people’s emotions.
Daniel Pink’s definition of empathy is very important, and after doing some of these
activities, I will be more aware of its effect on everyday life and attempt to
show more empathy towards others.